There is obviously something to the theory that social media is why hookup culture is so popular nowadays. The real question is, is social media to blame for hookup culture? I think you and I both already know the answer but nevertheless, let's find out together...

Right off the bat, we can tell you that social media has greatly affected everything we do today. The whole world is at your fingertips and you can see and talk to anyone anywhere in the world. You also judge people for not being on social media. Like they are somehow less of a person because they aren't online. How is this fair? It's not, but that is just how our culture rolls nowadays. Social media controls our lives. If it wasn't for social media we wouldn't have half of what we do now. Our businesses thrive because we have an online footprint. But how does it affect the hookup culture?

With the rise of social media and the whole world being at our very fingertips, it is easy to get swept up the sense that social media is to blame for the increase in the hookup culture. It has officially boiled down to the fact that hookup apps exist. A simple app that allows you to meet locals nearby that you can hook up with. Taking out the need for a date entirely. Things like this are what's pushing out future backwards. Twenty years ago, you had to meet your partner the old fashion way... by leaving your house. There is no way the most perfect person is just going to show up at your door looking for sex. Not to mention, if they were, would that really be the person you want to meet? No, we didn't think so.

While we do not slut shame in any way, there's a massively huge difference in who we meet and who we want. While for a hookup you might want someone with morals a little looser than your own, when you want a relationship, you want someone you can introduce to your mom. You want someone who you can take out somewhere nice and know you will have a lovely time together.

The people you hook up with are more likely not looking for anything commitment-adjacent. There is nothing wrong with that either. If you are single, go out there and live life. You will love every second of it. Not to mention, these are all stories you will be able to tell your friends or children further down the road. Everyone loves a good hook up or messy dating story.

When you are looking for someone you want, there is a good chance if you are using social media, you won't be on hookup apps. You'll be scrolling through your Facebook page, wondering who you could you see yourself with. Do you have a lot of mutual friends?

The number one problem with social media is that there is just too many options! How are we supposed to find the one when you meet 20 new people a day? The number one reason that marriages aren't as common today as it was back 20 years ago is because of just this. Too many options. You need someone who is sexy but also classy but also your best friend. You need them to be all these different people and you never know if that it truly the case.

Famous comedian Aziz Ansari wrote an entire book, called Modern Romance, about romance and the hookup culture and how social media has given us too many options. We want this person to somehow be everything and give us everything:

"Marriage was an economic institution in which you were given a partnership for life in terms of children and social status and succession and companionship. But now we want our partner to still give us all these things, but in addition I want you to be my best friend and my trusted confidant and my passionate lover to boot, and we live twice as long. So we come to one person, and we basically are asking them to give us what once an entire village used to provide: Give me belonging, give me identity, give me continuity, but give me transcendence and mystery and awe all in one. Give me comfort, give me edge. Give me novelty, give me familiarity. Give me predictability, give me surprise. And we think it's a given, and toys and lingerie are going to save us with that. Ideally, though, we're lucky, and we find our soul mate and enjoy that life-changing mother lode of happiness. But a soul mate is a very hard thing to find." – Aziz Ansari, Modern Romance.

Back in the day, when our parents were meeting each other, there wasn't the whole world in their hands. They often found someone who lived near them and decided that this was the person they wanted to spend the rest of their life with. Hookup culture and the rise of social media means that we can meet someone online, a million miles away and connect with them versus connecting with our neighbor like we would've forty years ago. With social media being so involved in our lives, we have the option of meeting way too many people and you fall in love with more than one of them because they have something the first person doesn't. Ask your parents about hookup culture, we guarantee that they will not understand what you are talking about. For them, when they found the one, they stopped looking. When things got hard, they worked through it. While for us, if things get hard, we say fuck this person and bail only to do it all over again. It's easier to leave someone than to work through problems.

Because we have so many means of communication now with our phones and our various apps and social medias. We are in touch constantly. However, does having privacy about who you talk to mean there is trust there? With new apps such as SnapChat we can communicate with someone and never have anything saved on our phone. Meaning you could be dating someone and still sending tit shots or dick pictures to someone else and your partner will never know. Now, if you are truly in love, you trust that this isn't happening. However, in the hookup culture this isn't exactly the case. If you aren't snapping photos of yourself to someone, are you really playing the game to its fullest? If you aren't keeping their attention at all times, how do you know they aren't straying? While these apps are fun, they are also the cause of so many dating problems in our society. Can we really trust anyone anymore when it comes to hookup culture and social media?

The other side of this is that you can't ask to see someone's phone without them getting mad. That is the thing about trust. If you don't have it, you are constantly questioning whether or not your partner is being faithful. Is this the type of relationship you want to be in?

One really good thing for most about social media in the hookup culture is that there is always a group people in your roster. There is no need to commit when you have a string of people who you can go to whenever you want for some fun. When one of them drops the "so what are we?", you can just kick them off the roster and add in someone new. There are a million people at your fingertips that it doesn't matter who you are with.

If you are planning on using social media to its full extent when it comes to hooking up, you need to develop a good roster of people. It is beneficial for you that none of them know each other, which is why social media is great. You can see who your mutual friends and if there is a chance that two of your hookups might talk to one another. Getting a roster together means you never have to spend a night alone ever.

The downside of this is that instead of taking care of one person, you are taking care of a number of people. That means there are always the chance that you might slip up and call them the wrong name or double book yourself. If you want to have a roster, you need to make sure that you are great at scheduling and put their picture in your phone so you know exactly you are talking to. This will save you so much trouble in the end.

We aren't hating on social media by any means, please be aware of that. Social media is a great thing. It helps you to grow your business. It helps to connect you to other people and stay in touch with friends who might not live near you. We love social media.

For those single people out there, social media is actually a great way for you to meet people. Whether you are connecting with strangers over Twitter, snapping photos to someone on SnapChat, Facebook messaging an old friend, or simply posting cute photos of your dog on Instagram, single people thrive in the social media outlets. They have the time to be posting constantly, chatting with randoms, making new friends. When it comes to hooking up with someone, some of you might not like the idea of hooking up with a stranger, so social media is great. You can chat up someone you briefly met at concert or party and start something that way. This is great because you will have mutual friends and you will be able to talk to them about whether or not you think this is person is a good person.

It also gives you insight into their lives. You see that they like camping or dirt biking and you can talk about that. It opens up their life to you, instead of just casually meeting someone OkCupid where you just give what they tell you. Being Facebook friends can actually be beneficial to getting to know someone on a deeper level and seeing if you want to be with them in a hookup sense. We have all drunkenly messaged a person on Facebook and asked them to come over.

When you are looking for someone, do you creep their social media? Do you skim through all their Instagram photos? Do you read their tweets so you can match their humor? If you answered yes, then obviously social media and hookup culture is a good thing. That is how we connect with people. However, this is an opinion-based question. Do you feel like social media is why hooking up is so popular now? We sure as hell do. We 100% agree that if it wasn't for social media, we wouldn't have a huge hookup culture and it wouldn't be popular. In our opinion, social media is the cause of the hookup culture, but we love hearing your thoughts on the subject.

Social media is good and bad, but it all comes down to whether or not you are comfortable with yourself to be let it affect your dating life. The main thing is that social media has greatly helped the hookup culture become something more common among the younger generation. There is something about knowing you have the world at your fingertips. You never have to worry about anything when you know that you always have options.

If you have a different opinion about this, we would love to hear it. Please join in the conversation and give us your two cents about social media and hookup culture.

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