It can be really difficult to let go of a past relationship, and get over your ex. When you've invested a lot of time and love into them, getting over your ex can seem impossible at times. If you really want to get over them, there are a lot of emotions you will need to go through, and you're going to need to take a good look at yourself, as well. If you're ready to leave your ex behind for good, Hookupcloud can help you put this behind you. So, how do you get over your ex once and for all? Keep reading, because if you're ready to be honest with yourself, and you're really ready, these tips will help you get there.

For several reasons, including many more that will be addressed at other points in this article, the very first thing you need to do in order to get over your ex is to be honest with yourself. No matter how things may have ended with your ex, even if the finale was harsh, no relationship ends solely because of only one person. If you can admit this first step to yourself, then you can take a look at moving forward. Remember though, until you're honest with yourself, and you're willing to admit your part in why things ended you're sure to have a long road of pain and misery ahead of you, and even worst, you're probably going to continue making the same mistakes and going through a lot more heartache. So, how do you get over your ex once and for all? Being honest with yourself is an incredibly important first step. Feeling sorry for yourself and placing blame are not options. You need to own your own part, and go through the motions of the entire situation, reflecting on the good and the bad you've both done. Working through it is the best way to put it behind you. From there, you can focus on yourself and what you've learned from the experience, so you can move forward on the right foot. We'll touch on all of these points in more detail.

You are not a victim, so please do not behave like one. You were a willing participant in a relationship that didn't work out, and now it's over. You need to accept that, and deal with it. It's okay to be sad when things end. It's even okay to break a little bit. Don't let yourself fall completely apart though, and become a victim to the situation. There is no person on the planet who enjoys being around someone with a victim mentality and in the future when you start dating again, you're not going to attract a very strong or confident partner, if you're constantly playing the victim. Think about how your current behavior and choices will affect your future, because they will affect it.

Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Pick yourself up and dust yourself off. You have a long road to recover ahead of you, and that's totally okay. You're going to be just fine, and you'll make it through what you need to. In the meantime though, don't allow yourself to become a victim. No good will ever come of walking through any time in your life with that mentality.

It no longer matters who's to blame for what, who did more to whom...just stop. This is the surest way to stay stuck in the situation for as long as it takes you to snap out of your anger. It's okay to be mad. By all means go through the motions. You cannot stay stuck in that angry place, though. Placing blame is never, ever going to solve anything. You will only continue to fester in a pool of angry emotions and repeat this vicious cycle over and over again. It's not worth it. For the sake of your own sanity, you can't keep playing the hurtful things that your ex did to you over and over in your mind. You're only going to keep yourself trapped in an angry place and in the end, you will only hurt yourself and sabotage any future relationships you may try to have. It's totally okay for you to acknowledge anything that may have happened to you, and to work your way through it. It's also important to acknowledge that you don't want to expose yourself to the same negative things in the future. By all means, take all of that into consideration. Spend as much time as you need to, acknowledge things and get past them. Don't get stuck in the blame trap, though. That will never get you anywhere.

This isn't pleasant, but it needs to be done. You can run from your feelings all you want to, or focus on the negatives to try and forget the good times, but you will stay in your rut, and you will never get past it if you do this. Let yourself remember the good times and the bad times. You will get over this, don't worry. Going through these motions is a perfectly safe thing to do. You're going to feel all kinds of things. All of them will pass, but while you're feeling them, go with it. Face your feelings about everything. When you feel mad at your ex, feel mad. When you miss them like crazy, miss them. It's okay to feel all of these different things, and to make your way through each emotion. We're not all naturals at doing this. It's uncharted territory, because once you start, you never really know where your emotions are going to take you. It's important that you find out, though. Once you start allowing yourself to go through the motions, you'll find that you're starting to heal.

That's right. It must be done, if you ever want to move on, and get the next chapter of your life started off on the right foot. Your ex is not the only one to blame for the failure of your relationship. For example, even if it seems that you gave so much to the relationship and they gave so little, why did you continue to give so much, if that was the case? No one can keep taking from you, if you don't keep giving them something to take. So, own your part. Whatever that might mean. Maybe you're the one who took more than you gave, and your ex has left you behind because of that. Well, you need to own that, too. The only way you can avoid making the same mistakes in the future, is to admit what you've done wrong now. Once you've done that, you'll be able to move onto the next phase of your life on an honest foot, and you're sure to be more successful in your next relationship. So, own your part. You'll be amazed at how liberating it can be, to be honest with yourself.

How your ex is dealing with the breakup, what they're saying about it, if they're stuck in an angry place, whatever the case may be. This has nothing to do with you, and it's not your problem. If they're choosing to stay in an angry place, and you're moving on, again, that's not your problem. If they're choosing to speak negatively about the situation, don't take that on. Their behavior will speak for itself, and anyone who's worth talking to or having in your life at all will see things for what they are, and not participate. The only thing you are responsible for, is how you're dealing with things. You have no control over how they're dealing with things, or how they are conducting themselves. Remember, their behavior and the things they say speaks volumes about them - not about you. Let it go, and keep moving forward.

You just spent a good chunk of your time with this person, and even though it may have ended, and it may not have ended well, you still shared time together and a lot of those times were surely good times. That doesn't mean to dwell on the the good times and the fact that they're over, it means that you can take them with you as good memories in your life, and think back on that time with fondness, no matter how it might have ended. We're all responsible for choosing the lens through which we choose to see our own life experiences, so choose yours wisely. If you choose to see all of the good things about your relationship when you look back on it, then you're sure to keep a fond memory in your life and that is never a negative thing. It's great to look back on times in our lives and smile, right? So, once you've moved past everything, choose to look back with a smile. You'll be a lot better off if you do.

This right here, is one of the most important things that you will ever do for yourself when you come out of any negative or challenging situation in life. When it comes to getting over your ex and putting this situation behind you though, this really is a question that you need to ask yourself. Surely, you have learned something. In all likelihood, you have probably learned a heck of a lot. What did you learn about yourself that you don't wish to repeat in future relationships? What did you learn about your ex that you don't want to see reflected in a future partner? What worked about the dynamic between the two of you? What didn't work. It's so important to ask yourself these questions, and to be honest with yourself about the answers. The amount of knowledge and life improvement that you are sure to gain from doing this, is incredible. Take stock of what you have learned, and take that knowledge forward with you. You will win every time you do this.

Before you decide to get into another relationship, no matter how good your progress on these many other points may have been, it is very important that you take some time for yourself. You need to get to know yourself again. We all change as we make our way through a relationship, and we never come out the other side as the same person who went in, so how have you changed? How have you learned to cope more effectively with things? What makes you happy at this time? What does your passion drive you to do? Instead of looking for a new relationship to focus all of this energy on, focus it on yourself and find your way again - on your own terms. When you do this, you'll set yourself off on a path that's sure to lead you to a great partner down the road, and you'll run into them when you least expect it.

You're going to be just fine. If you can make it through all of these steps and come out on the other side with a stronger sense of self, then you are going to be even more than fine. Forgive your ex for their part in the end of your relationship. You don't have to forget, but forgiving them is one of the most liberating things you will be able to do for them - and especially for you. Don't carry that weight with you any further. Forgive them, and let it go. You also need to forgive yourself. Don't punish yourself because of any mistakes you may have made during the course of this relationship. Forgive yourself, learn from your mistakes, move forward, and don't look back. You've got so much to look forward to now, and we wish you all the best on your path to discovering it.

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