Not everyone out there is insanely charming and can hook up with a girl on the first date. Some of us need a little bit of help. There is nothing wrong with that. So, how do you hook up on the first date? Let us tell you how to hook up on the first date!

If you are planning on getting laid your first date, you need to put in some extra effort. Not everyone will jump in the sack right away and not everyone will be charming on a first date. So, you need to put in a bit of extra planning to make sure that you are setting the right mood for the date. Mainly, don't take them somewhere sub-par and expect them to want to go home with you. You need to step up your game and show that you have been listening to them. Take them somewhere you know they will have a good time.

Talk to your date a bit before you go out and find out what they like. If they are more of a classy person, take them somewhere nice. If they are a sporty person take them somewhere fun. Make sure you are catering this date to their likes and interests. Don't take them to a lame bar that offers up half-priced drinks and two-for-one nacho deals. Or anywhere that has a band that plays super loudly. No one likes talking over crappy, live music.

Having a few drinks is fine but you don't want to get messy on a first date. You also don't want to give the impression that you are only interesting when you drink. You are interesting and smart and funny all on your own otherwise they wouldn't be out with you. Keep it at a three drink limit and nurse those drinks for as long as you can without them getting warm.

The main thing about dating is looking like you have your stuff together. Don't show up in some old tee shirt or ripped jeans. Look nice. If you are going to a sport bar wear nicer jeans and a polo. If you are going for drinks somewhere classy throw on a blazer. Don't just show up looking like you slept in the clothing that you are wearing. You can wear band tee shirts under a sportsjacket to show off that you are casual but also classy. It's a great look.

Shave or trim your beard, shower and wash your body. Put on a bit of cologne but not too much. You want to smell subtly nice not like you showered in Old Spice. Proper grooming can set you apart from your counterparts and make your date notice you more. So, why not go the extra little mile and make yourself look amazing.

A lot of people get nervous and start spewing out any old story or randomly bragging about things. Just remember that you are good enough and they want to be there. If you find yourself rambling on about any old things, take a step back and ask them some questions. It will help move the conversation forward and it will also help make sure that you get to know them a bit and let them see that you might want a second date.

There is a general rule of thumb on a first date that you should never talk about religion, politics, or past relationships. If you were married, it is fine to mention that however don't go into detail about how much you hate your ex. That just screams there is nothing deep or emotional about you and that you are just petty. Stick to just talking about what they do for a living, where they went to school, what their hobbies are, etc. Stuff like that can make things a hell of a lot better for you versus having a debate about whether or not Trump deserve to be president. He doesn't. Argument over, now move along.

This is an interesting section because not everyone is charming but with enough practice you very well could be. Take our helpful steps in learning how to be charming and eventually it will become second nature for you. There is also a very fine line between charming and being a creep, you need to make sure you walk that line with some serious caution. Otherwise, you will be going home with no one but yourself. So follow our steps on how to be charming and you will be hooking up by the end of the night no problem.

The ones who can wheel are the ones who have the confidence to deal. By that, we mean that you should learn how to speak to women. First of all, talking to a woman is how you are going to get them to go out with you. Open with a joke, if you're funny, or a compliment if you're not. However, a joke can be something as cliché as "How much does a polar weigh? Enough to break the ice."

We aren't saying be Jim Carrey but also we also aren't saying be Don Draper. You need to be able to work a bit of humor into your repertoire otherwise you will come across as too serious and no one likes someone who doesn't laugh. Also, on the subject of laughter, laugh at her jokes, but don't over do it. If she says something cute, let out a giggle or two.

Always ask a bunch of questions about her. Knowing that you are taking a genuine interest in her life says a lot about you. If you can make her feel like she is the most interesting person in the world, that all her stories are great, that she is possibly the one you have been searching for your whole entire life you have a much better chance of getting her into bed with you. Girls love being treated like they are the only ones you will ever need.

It is proven that men who take interest in their date are more likely going to get laid on the first date. Now we aren't just talking, paying attention to them while they talk. We mean engage them. Compliment them without sounding phoney, make good eye contact with them, don't' check out other girls in the room. Things of that nature. You want to make sure this girl knows you are there for her and only her.

We aren't by any means saying that you should touch someone without first making sure it's cool. But you know how girls do that thing where they will touch your forearm to establish connection? Do the male version of that, which is usually the smallest thigh graze or shoulder touch. Maybe even brush some hair out of her face. There is so much that you can do that is sexy and subtle but also very effective. You want to give her shivers up her spine in a great way.

Nothing puts a damper on a date quicker than being on your phone a bunch. So, put your phone on vibrate and put it in your pocket and don't take it out until the end of the date. Seriously, this is actually a big deal with dating. The ONLY time you should ever check your phone on a date is if you have kids. That is your only reasoning for needing to look at your phone and that is also something you should bring up on your first date or second date. Depending on who you let know about this kind of thing. There is no rules in place for who you tell this information to, that is your business.

Obviously, we don't encourage you lying to people ever. However, you can always bend the truth. Yesterday, you might have held a door open for an elderly lady but maybe you say you also made sure she got to where she needs to be because she had a cane it was hard for her to walk. Not a lie, but not a full truth. Not to mention, any stories involving dogs, old ladies, or children will make a pair of panties drop so hard there will be a hole in the floor. If you can work in a cute story like that, she will be nothing but putty in your hands.

You got them to come home with you but what now? It's all well and good to know all the right things to do but what about the wrong things to do? You never think about those things and there's a good chance you have a done one or two of them in your time. Let us give you some insight into what you are doing and why you need to stop it now if you want to keep hooking up with this person.

Is it really so hard for you to spend the night? Sleeping with a girl on the first date and then leaving before they get up is a dirt bag quality. You will lose any chance of them ever wanting to hook up with you again. The same can also be said for the giving and taking of the night. Don't be selfish and accept all the pleasure yourself, be a caring lover and make sure that you are just as satisfied as they are.

While we all have our kinky fetishes, stick to just plain foreplay and sex. There is no reason to bust out the nipple clamps and anal beads on the first date. Work up to that. Also, unless they are asking for it, don't bring up wanting to have anal sex. Most girls are good girls and try not to do that sort of thing on a first date. Same goes for you, if you like to be pegged, maybe save that for another night when you are both comfortable with each other.

If there is one thing we can say for sure, it is don't be an early finisher. If you are prone to premature ejaculation, there are several tricks you can try to keep it going longer. Numbing creams, unsexy thoughts, stopping and starting, pleasing her first... trust us, while every girl will tell you that its ok and it happens all the time, its not and it doesn't. Hold off for as long as you can. You might even want to unload before the date even starts so that you can last longer later on.

This is something we feel as though we should talk about. If it doesn't happen on the first date, don't get mad. This will never paint you in a good light. Just try again on the next date or move on to someone new but never, EVER, get mad at them. This is just something you need to get over and move on from. Getting mad will not only make you look like a jerk but it'll paint you in a light that no dude wants to be painted in: a predator. So, just be cool, put them in a cab, and send them off into the night. You'll get another chance or you'll find someone new.

With these tips that we have given you to set the mood for the entire night you are sure to be hooking up in no time flat on that first date. Trust us, we are the professionals after all.

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