Tips and Tricks To Giving Her The Best Head Of Her Life

These tips and techniques for giving head will have her begging for more.

When it comes to oral sex, often we can get hung up on blowjobs and totally forget that women deserve some attention too! And yes, most women do love oral sex. The problem is that they often don't receive GOOD oral sex so they tend to be a little less enthused when it comes up. Here are the facts: women do love oral sex, but it has to be good. And just what constitutes giving women good head? So glad you asked.

Before You Get Started With Giving Her Head

It could be temping to just jump right in. However, you may want to take a moment to consider a few things before you get started. These things will help you to be a more compassionate and considerate lover. Whether you're applying them to a hookup or long-time partner, we think they are important and will only improve your giving head experience! Here they are:

1. No two women are the same.

What your last partner liked will not be the same as your current partner. Do not assume that every woman and every vagina is the exact same. Nothing could be further from the truth! Every woman has unique desires and pleasure points. What feels good to one woman might feel uncomfortable to another woman. As well, personal experience and history plays into a lot of what a person finds comfortable and sexy in bed. Never assume that you know what your current lover wants because you new what your past lover wanted. And chances are if you are already assuming this, you likely didn't know what your last partner actually wanted either!

2. Listening is key.

If you were to ever listen in on a group of women talking about their sex lives, usually there is a complaint or two about the oral sex they are receiving. In fact, finding a lover or parent who is great at oral sex is somewhat of an anomaly. Why is this? Well, often times men aren't stopping to listen to their partners to figure out what they like and dislike. Whether this is because they don't think they have to or are too nervous too, we don't know! But what we do know is that good listening skills plays a huge part in being great at giving her great head.

3. Be willing to make mistakes and experiment.

Learning to give a woman good head is the same as learning to do anything: sometimes it can take a lot of practice. Sometimes you will mess up and do something that doesn't feel good. Or it could even feel weird! But this isn't a big deal and it's nothing to get upset or offended over. Loosen up and accept that sex is weird and the only way you'll get better and find the best positions and techniques is through trial and error. And there will be a lot of error! You and your partner have to be willing to openly explore one another's bodies to really get to know them. It's only when you know their bodies really well that you can truly pleasure another person.

4. Don't treat it like a chore! And definitely don't skip it!

Women love oral sex as much as guys do. Don't think of it like a chore or something that you are doing just so you can get oral sex in return. That kind of tit for tat sex relationship can build up stress and resentment. Instead, try to take pleasure in your partner's pleasure. She's trusting you to put your face in her vagina so take your time and make it special. If you aren't necessarily into it, try to keep in mind how much your partner is enjoying it and how much you value her pleasure. It should be just as important to you as your own, of course. You could also be tempted to skip going down on her entirely. Resist this urge! You should be paying her entire body some attention before you get to intercourse, especially her vaginal area. Oral sex is an incredibly important part of the sex experience.

5. Sometimes an orgasm isn't going to happen and that is okay.

It can be very hard sometimes for women to orgasm from oral stimulation alone. Many women need some form of hard penetration to orgasm. This is okay because everybody is different and everybody respond to pleasure in their own way. As well, even if she can orgasm from oral sex it doesn't necessarily mean she wants to. The sensation of having your tongue and mouth in her bits can be enough of a great feeling that more isn't needed. It's also important to keep in mind that some woman have a harder time orgasming in general. Please don't take it personally! And if there's one thing we can guarantee is that your partner will definitely be able to tell if you are frustrated with how she isn't orgasming. It will totally bum her out and that isn't cool at all. There is a whole lot more to sex than an orgasm, after all!

6. Vaginas are weird.

Women can sometimes be really shy about their vaginas. There is a lot of pressure to make sure their are groomed well and in general they can sometimes be a bit sticky or smelly. Try to be sensitive to how women might be sensitive about their lady bits. And all healthy vaginas have a slight odour and secretions so that is totally normal. Do not be weirded out by it! This consideration will go a long way!

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The Very Best Tips And Tricks To Giving Her The Best Head

Now that we've gone over some of the etiquette and expectations when it comes to giving her great head, it's time to go over some actual tips and techniques. Of course, like we said above, everybody is different so some of these ideas maybe work an some of them won't. The key is to keep experimenting to find what does work!

1. Start Off Really Slow

Don't just go right for the clitoris and try to bang one out. It's not especially sexy and it is a surefire way to kill the mood. Instead, take time to slowly drive her crazy. Undress her very, very slowly. Kiss everywhere on her body BUT her vaginal area. Stroke the insides of her thighs until her back arches. With a little bit of extra time and teasing you could have her whimpering before you've even touched her bits.

2. Get Crafty With Your Tongue

Your tongue is one of the best tools you have for pleasuring a woman! It can get into all the different areas of her vulva, from her clitoris to around her labia and down to the vaginal opening. Take time to use your tongue in different ways to taste and feel everything. Your tongue can be soft and slow and it can also be hard and fast. It is a great muscle, after all!

There is one specific technique worth mentioning that always has people divided: spelling out the alphabet with your tongue while you're down there. Some people swear by it and say it's a good way to get different shapes with your tongue and mouth. Other people say it's weird and a waste of time. Listen to your lover and find out what she prefers you do with your tongue. Maybe she'd like you spelling out her own name instead of the ABCs!

3. Definitely Try Sucking

People might be on the fence about the alphabet technique but everyone can agree that sucking feels incredible. Try taking her clitoris in your mouth and giving it a little suck. See how she reacts and try harder or softer for your next go. It's definitely strange-feeling the first time around but it does feel very, very good. There are so many nerve endings in the clitoris that are extra stimulated when you suck.

While sucking is always welcome, whether it's the clitoris or the labia or around the vulva, one thing that you should never, ever do is blow. It may sound crazy but some people actually do try to blow right into the vagina. Not only is this really weird and gross and does not feel good, but blowing air inside her body that way could also be slightly dangerous. Just don't do it! Stick with sucking and you'll be all set.

4. Use your hands!

Yes, oral sex is all about using your mouth but your hands can play an important role too! Try fingering her slowly while you're flicking and sucking at her clitoris. The extra stimulation should feel amazing. You can also switch it up and use your tongue to thrust into her vaginal opening and stimulate her clitoris with your finger. And, of course, light feather touches or even deep, hard squeezes along the inside of her thighs can feel great as well. When she is aroused her whole body is aching to be touched and every little bit feels amazing.

5. Also experiment with toys.

There's no shame in bringing in some extra help when giving her head. In fact, instead of thinking of it as "you aren't good enough" think of it as adding that much extra pleasure and fun to her experience. You can introduce a dildo or a vibrator to your oral sex for super increased stimulation. Your tongue on her clitoris definitely feels amazing and so does a vibrator, just in a totally different way.

6. Don't stick to one position.

The default is always that you are both lying down and you have your head between her legs. That's definitely fine, but try moving around a bit! The 69 position can be a lot of fun because you can get at her area from a totally different angle. Even better is that she can join in and orally pleasure you too. Also try having her sit right on your face. This gives her a little bit more control, which can be an extra turn on. It also frees up your hands to more easily tease other parts of her body, like her breasts and nipples.

7. Know what the clitoris is and where the clitoris is.

We don't need to say much more than that. Figure out where the clitoris is. You won't get very far if you don't know, trust us.

8. There's more to oral sex than just the clitoris.

The clitoris is great and definitely does provide a lot of pleasure when it is being stimulated. However good oral sex involves exploring and pleasing the entire vaginal area. Don't be shy to taste, touch, and lick your way through it all! It's also helpful to learn all the rest of her body parts as well. She can likely name all of the parts of your penis so it's only right to return the favor and intimately know her vaginal area just as well.

9. When you find what works, keep doing it!

Experimenting with new techniques is definitely great but when you find what works, there's no shame in sticking to that. Likely that one particular thing will become a favorite and "go-to" move the she will start begging for.

10. Be mindful about kissing afterward.

After you've finished going to town on her bits, the last thing she might want is to be kissing you on the lips right after. Each woman is different, of course. Some don't mind, some think tasting themselves is a turn on, some would prefer you wipe your mouth first. Take your cue from her and see what she prefers!

We hope this list of things to consider and tips and techniques for giving her the best head of her life is super helpful. If you try out even half of these things, you'll have one happy partner and be well on your way to giving her the best head of her life! (But you should obviously try everything.)

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How To Give Her The Best Head Of Her Life